In a recent New York Times book review, Jincy Willett reveals that Henry Alford, the author of Will It Kill You To Stop Doing That?: A Modern Guide to Manners, sat down with “Miss Manners” to interview her for the book. During the interview, he learned that “the manners of the Southern white aristocracy were originally imparted by household slaves, whose origins were often considerably less humble than their owners.”
That statement triggered the memory of a comment made to me many years ago by a fellow pilot. He said – and I paraphrase – You must be glad that your ancestors were slaves because you are better off here than you would have been if they had stayed in Africa.
I left him with “If you only knew …” only because it wasn’t the right time nor place to teach History of Slavery 101. The offhand anecdote in the book review and the memory of his comment, however, opened a flood of thoughts about America’s willful ignorance of the ecology of the slave trade. How blind we are to a thoughtful understanding of the impact of one of history’s most barbaric eras even though it was the era that gave rise to modern civilization as we know it.
Enslaved Africans and contemporary Africans were and are not the Africans of popular imagination and stereotype. It is well documented that contact with European explorers, who were equipped with the difference-makers, guns and steel, destroyed numerous local governance structures on the continent of Africa before the discovery of the Americas and the advent of the trans-Atlantic trade in enslaved Africans. Reeling from the rapacious assault of Europeans searching for gold and other continental riches, the political and cultural collapse of many African civilizations in the 15th century was the first blow that led to the eventual burial of Africa’s claim to a heritage of civilization.
The most important aspect of the trans-Atlantic trade in kidnapped human beings is opaque to the orthodox narrative of history and that is this: only the best, only the brightest, only the strongest, only the healthiest Africans were captured and enslaved.
It should be obvious that traffickers in human cargo would leave behind the weak, the elderly, the infirm, the physically and mentally challenged. The raiders faced the prospects of long, arduous marches to the ports and the slavers faced hazardous, often month long sea voyages, both with precious investments that had to be kept alive and healthy. For hundreds of years, raiders and slavers depopulated societies and networked villages of their kings, their queens, their priests, their warriors, their midwives, their farmers, their fishermen, their builders, their hunters, their healers, their skilled craftsman, their laborers, their merchants and their tradesmen. The healthiest keepers and guardians of stability, of infrastructure, of technology and of continuity for society and civilization were marched away from their ancestral environment. Those left behind, if they were allowed to survive the attacks, were the least able and equipped to rebuild even a poor semblance of the former society that was decimated before their eyes. Is it any wonder that, after at least 50 decades of malicious intervention, the result is the varieties of cultural regression that could manifest as stereotypes to the uninformed observer?
Yet, the miracle of the resilient, human spirit is displayed in the talent and industriousness of today’s African, whose capabilities and potential contributions to humanity are blunted but not blighted by artificial political units established by colonial powers for the benefit of the invaders and the detriment of the inhabitants. Despite the crushing history of disadvantage, the continent continues to produce the Wangari Maathais, the David Adjayes and the Jimoh Buraimohs of our times.
So it is by no means a stretch of imagination to accept the idea that some American colonists and plantation owners, many of whom were the dregs of Britain who had no future prospects except to take a chance at viability in a strange new land, learned the basics of manners and courtly behavior from the best and brightest among their African captives.
And no, I’m not happy that my ancestors were enslaved.
